DrBAE - Dr Bartons Aural Elixirs (Iain Barton Shorts)

a truism generalisation - it all comes down to how we interpret it - 7 May 2026 #stoicism #belief

a truism generalisation - how we react and experience life all comes down to how we interpret it!generally speaking, if we interpret things in a positive way, we will feel positive about things ...best wishes Iain - 7 May 2026 #stoicism #belief

where someone is being unkind there are three possibilities... 7 May 2026 #stoicism

when someone is being unkind there are three possibilities ...a. they are right b. they are wrong c. somewhere in between if a ... listen, apologise (if appropriate), understand and reflect, what do you need to do? what can you learn from this?if b ... listen, observe how they are being misguided, where (if anywhere) can you correct them, is there even any advantage in doing so? what do you need to do to help them or guide them? what can you teach them in this experience?if c ... listen, learn to understand what you could do better, and what they need to appreciate, seek and understanding or a compromise.

when you are dealing with difficult or obnoxious people - 6 May 2026 #stoicism

Remember that you don’t control other people. You only control your judgments, your actions, and your character.1. Imagine the person you are struggling with as opponent who had been sent to test your behaviour, patience and response.2. Separate the person from the behaviour, don't label people as “idiots”, "uneducated" or "evil". Focus of the behaviour and use some labelling as this is misguided, not well reasoned, has factual flaws.3. Ask yourself “What can I control right now?”- tone of your response - setting boundaries - deciding whether to engage - your current emotional state 4. Take a deep breath before responding.1. Breathe 2. Notice your irritation 3. Choose your response deliberately 5. Respond calmly without contempt avoid falling into the trap of being passive-agressive.Aim to be - calm - factual - brief - response without ego - response without the need to “win” 6. Try to see things as if people are acting from ignorance or poor "programming" not from malice or being deliberately "evil".Most people aren’t evil. They’re:- scared - uninformed - insecure - shaped by bad habits - repeating what they’ve been taught 7. If after genuinely trying to engage then you may need to disengage, but do so without drama:“I see we’re not going to agree. Let’s leave it there.”Remain calm. Be Controlled. Don't get emotional.

my reaffirmed basic scheduling principle - 6 May 2026 #livelife #lifelessons

DrBAE - Dr Barton's Aural Elixirs get there a good ten minutes early for events and meetingsit is a good thing to be early and spend that time reflecting what you want to do and what you want to do next. or perhaps causally chatting with a fellow early bird?best wishes laiin

limit podcasts, audiobooks and music with lyrics ... 5 May 2026 #productivity #drbae

limit podcasts, audiobooks and music with lyrics ... while you are trying to do work, do you know I think this is even true for things like cleaning and washing up! the spoken word absorbs our mind, I'm not saying don't listen, I'm just saying it will distract you ...Iain5 May 2026 #productivity #drbae

if you are going to die at 88 years old ... 4 May 2026

this is just a thought experimentor perhaps I should say imagination experiment? imagine that humans lived to be 88 years old, (barring accidents or any other mortality). for whatever reason this is what happens ... a human dies at 88 years old age. imagine if you are that human how would you plan out the rest of your years that you have? (I hope that you're less than 88, for this imagination experiment, if not make the number 99 or 111!)what I want you to imagine, is given that firm deadline, how would you live the rest of your life? how would you prepare your goodbyes? how would you plan out the life that you would have left?

let’s be positive - let’s look forward to the future - let’s take action - 4 May 2026 #drbae

let's be positive - let's look forward to the future - let's take action -let's just do it!😁 4 May 2026 #drbae

PLEASE - for your own piece of mind ... 3 May 2026 #headspace

please for your own piece of mind ... set time aside for yourself and set time aside for yourself ideally in solitude ...best wishes Iain

you are not a good person! walking away ... 4 May 2026

Why you are not a good person?Have you walked away from someone simply because of their views and not willing to engage convince them they are wrong?Walking away from abuse is healthy; however walking away from debate is intellectually and morally weak.Let me explain ...It is completely reasonable to walk away from someone who is acting in an abusive manner because it is your moral duty in that situation is to protect yourself and your family. But when someone voluntarily enters a debate, conversation or argument, they take on a responsibility to engage honestly. Walking away from this scenario shows inconsistency, avoidance of evidence, and refusal to examine one’s beliefs. This behaviour is closed‑minded, bigoted and morally negligent because it rejects dialogue, avoids accountability, and prioritises ego over truth.- Personal boundaries justify walking away. Leaving a rude or hostile person is an act of self‑protection, not a moral failure.- Debate, conversation and argument carries an implicit responsibility. Entering a discussion means agreeing to listen, respond, and engage in good faith.- Walking away from debate is inconsistent. It contradicts the person’s stated interest in truth or reason.- Avoiding counterarguments is bigoted. It replaces logical evaluation with emotional avoidance.- Closed‑mindedness further resembles bigoted thinking. Refusing to hear other viewpoints protects unexamined assumptions.- Shutting down dialogue can be morally harmful. It avoids responsibility, denies the other person’s perspective, and prioritises comfort over truth.

mantra - I like to go for an evening walk! #mantra - 3 May 2026

mantra - I like to go for an evening walk! #mantra - 3 May 2026